The reality I experience as an individual is a product of my perception. The good news is, I can learn to perceive the spiritual reality beyond my corporeal limitations.
We exercise our free will only in the choice of our environment, in the choice of who we have as friends, and in the choice of books we read (or movies we watch etc). It is an illusion to think we have a choice in our individual behaviors, since these are products of genetics and upbringing.
I learned that everything the creator gives is good. If I experience something I feel is ‘bad,’ I need to change my perception of the experience in order to accept what is good about it.