I guess to be aware of the “butterfly effects” that our single choices and decisions’d have on others. It is an approach to complexity that implies me stopping before doing anthing and considering those effects first, before acting (or not acting).
The power of recognising how I project my expectation on my partner. And how this is related to my personal perception and does not leave space for a mutual understanding.
Asking myself what is the reason why I desire something: what is my intention? What Love’d do if It were me?? At the end It means, would it be of a service to others or not? And then choose.