I think as with any relationship you have to yearn to be in a relationship, to get in contact. You have to open yourself and listen, try to understand them, and connect on things that you have in common. With upper force the point in the heart is the start, but then through our yearning to wanting to be with that force and learning through Kabbalah how to communicate and connect, and learn what it is and trying to be/share its same qualities.
In these seeming troubling times, I wish for all of us to realize we are one. Any harm we do, we do to ourselves, any good we do, we do to ourselves. Let’s remember that we can be pulled down the path of pain or the path of light. Let’s come together by having the collective intention of choosing light, by looking beyond the noise and feeling what it is the Creator is trying to tell us.
I think for me its when things click. Sometimes I read or hear something and it doesn’t click, and then later on I have an ah ha moment when the light bulb clicks on.
When the creature gets to Malchut and begins to desire to be identical to the creator, hence climbing back up the ladder does that not make him egotistical again because his desire is for himself?