I have been working on my will to receive and have started to be able to receive in order to bestow, my wife has helped me to be able to put others before, I find when I do this I feel happy and contented, something i dont feel when i do something just for myself.
Learning about our development, and how we go though fazes of development, it explains why we are at a point where we need to learn to cooperate in order to avoid war.